She keeps asking for a brother or sister.

Are you afraid to ask?

Emma is not. She keeps asking for a brother or sister. Clark and I light heartily told her today she might be an only child but many would always love her.

For now the question on siblings for Emma, we lay this question in God’s hands. Clark is not even a year out from cancer treatment and I am not that far from being 40.

Really how can I possibly (and really should we) explain to a 4 year old that Daddy’s boys the sperm are frozen and defrosting them is not so easy as placing them in a microwave and hitting start.

Ok not the most the scientific way of explaining the facts of life but still she is only 4 years old.

Which begs the question on how things have changed since I grew up and how babies are made. Yes, many, many babies are still made with grace of God the “traditional” way but still many, many babies are made with grace of God like Emma was with In Vitro Fertilization. For us, our journey with infertility and loss was our beginning with Emma and for that we would not trade any of it for the world.

For now, I answer questions as basically as I can.

The other day, Emma asked, “Do doctor’s help make babies?” “Yes, in your case and in many other babies they do.”

She seemed ok with that for now.

As for being an only child, that’s in Gods’ hands and maybe a little defrost time in the next several months.